BDSM Checklist for Henri Toulon
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droitduseigneurAdapted from this checklist.
Where it says "Yes/No" = means whether you've engaged in that type of activity before. Put "Y" for yes or "N" for no.
Rating scale for checklist:
0 = Don't ever ask me to do this. (HARD limit)
1 = I don't want to do this activity, but if it's important to my partner I can be persuaded. (soft limit)
2 = I'm not interested in this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of me.
3 = I'm willing to do this activity, but it has no real appeal for me.
4 = I usually like doing this activity, at least on an occasional basis.
5 = I love doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
6 = I love this activity, it makes me "hot", and would like it as often as possible.
Note1. Some of these may fall under a few categories (example: Blindolds can be Humiliation & mental bondage)
Note2. Some of these could be used for health reasons too (example forced exercising)
Write down any other role play activities not mentioned above, which you may be interested to try: I enjoy scenarios that involve me physically overpowering my submissive, with her actively resisting me. During those scenarios, there absolutely must be a safe-word in use, because "no" and "stop," and such words, will be used for dramatic purposes rather than as actual denials. I can get very rough during those games -- abduction/arrest/forced sex scenarios -- but I will never go past agreed limits. Also, I consider aftercare, and having the opportunity to treat my submissive gently and attentively, an important element of scening, especially if things get edgey. And this is going to sound a little odd, but I have a fetish for long hair, and I love to play with it, which may include wanting to wash, brush, or comb my submissive's hair.
At this stage, what do you feel are your absolute limits: I have no interest in engaging in "medical play," as it's too much like my "day job," and that's a line I'd rather not blur. Age play is also a hard limit for me because I used to be a pediatrician, and it's completely against how I view children and teens. Extremely violent acts, especially ones that cause permanent physical scarring, are repugnant to me.
Do you have any medical conditions and emotional concerns that I should know about? (if yes explain below): Not that I'm aware of.
Why and when did you get into the scene: I began exploring it when I was a college student. It's been almost twenty years now. It started out as curiosity and then I realized that it was a genuine need of mine.
What do you seek from your submissive: Most of all? Absolute obedience, and trust. And politeness, if that makes sense. Directness, and a willingness to negotiate and communicate, are extremely important as well.
What do you offer as a Dominant (emotionally and spiritually): I'm very protective of my submissive, and there's little I'll deny her if she asks me. (Within my means, anyway!) I have a great deal of experience with most acts, and know how to perform them safely. Although I think I might get jealous and/or angry if my submissive got involved with someone else without my knowledge/agreement, I'm pretty easy-going about sharing, so jealous tantrums are not something she'll have to worry about. And I never intrude further into her life than she's willing to have me.
OOC: A simple way to use these scores, in order to determine the types of activities that two characters will engage in together, is to add each character's score together with their prospective partner's score for the same item. If the combined score is 6 or less, the activity is one that they won't engage in together. It takes a minimum of 7 to result in an activity occurring.
(Why is that? Because if one of the two characters has a 0 score, signifying a hard limit, even a 6 from the other character can't contradict it. If they had a 1, signifying that they'll only do the activity if it's really important to their partner, it'll take a 6 from the other character to meet that requirement. Same with 2 and 5 -- one character is uninterested but the other is enthused -- and then 3 and 4 -- one character is neutral and the other character likes it.)
7 and 8 would be sporadic activities, not done all that often.
9 and 10 would be activities that occur regularly, but not constantly.
11 and 12 would be activities that occur on an almost constant basis and are generally ingredients of virtually every scene the characters play out.
Where it says "Yes/No" = means whether you've engaged in that type of activity before. Put "Y" for yes or "N" for no.
Rating scale for checklist:
0 = Don't ever ask me to do this. (HARD limit)
1 = I don't want to do this activity, but if it's important to my partner I can be persuaded. (soft limit)
2 = I'm not interested in this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of me.
3 = I'm willing to do this activity, but it has no real appeal for me.
4 = I usually like doing this activity, at least on an occasional basis.
5 = I love doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
6 = I love this activity, it makes me "hot", and would like it as often as possible.
Note1. Some of these may fall under a few categories (example: Blindolds can be Humiliation & mental bondage)
Note2. Some of these could be used for health reasons too (example forced exercising)
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 4 | Belts |
| Y | 1 | Bruises |
| Y | 1 | Cane (leather) |
| Y | 1 | Cane (plastic) |
| Y | 1 | Cat (braided) |
| Y | 1 | Cat (no knots) |
| Y | 4 | Crop |
| Y | 4 | Leather Paddle |
| Y | 4 | Paddle |
| Y | 5 | Spanking |
| Y | 1 | Whip |
| Y | 2 | Wooden Hair Brush |
| Y | 2 | Wooden Paddle |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 2 | Treat submissive as objects (cars, furniture, etc) |
| Y | 5 | Arresting officer |
| N | 0 | Parent of Baby |
| Y | 5 | Burglar Attack |
| Y | 3 | Call Girl's John |
| Y | 3 | Cowboy |
| Y | 5 | Interrogation Scene |
| Y | 5 | Kidnap Scene |
| N | 0 | Older man with little girl |
| Y | 5 | Maid's Master |
| N | 0 | Medical Scene |
| Y | 3 | With a Nun |
| Y | 3 | Priest |
| Y | 4 | Rape Scene (one) |
| N | 0 | Rape Scene (multiple) |
| N | 1 | Pet Owner |
| N | 1 | Pony Girl's Master |
| Y | 4 | Secretary's Boss |
| N | 0 | Teacher |
| N | 0 | With Teenager |
| N | 0 | Torturer |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 1 | Treat submissive as objects (furniture, etc) |
| N | 0 | Age Play |
| N | 0 | Bathroom use control |
| N | 0 | Bathroom use in front of others |
| Y | 6 | Blindfolds |
| Y | 2 | Receive Boot worship |
| Y | 3 | Chauffering |
| Y | 4 | Have submissive crawl on 4's |
| N | 1 | Submissive cross Dressing |
| Y | 2 | Curse words (Whore, Slut, etc) |
| Y | 4 | Make submissive curtsy in public |
| Y | 4 | Choose submissive's food |
| Y | 4 | Choose submissive's clothes |
| N | 0 | Administer enema |
| Y | 2 | Eye contact restrictions |
| Y | 2 | Receive Foot worship |
| N | 0 | Force Cross dressing |
| Y | 4 | Force dressing |
| Y | 2 | Force exercising |
| Y | 5 | Force nudity |
| Y | 6 | Force masturbation |
| N | 0 | Force prostitution (pretend) |
| N | 4 | Force slave auction |
| N | 5 | Force to be a slave |
| N | 5 | Force to wear a leash |
| N | 2 | Force to wear see thru clothes |
| N | 0 | Golden shower |
| Y | 3 | Harem Master |
| Y | 4 | Make submissive wear hood |
| Y | 6 | Make submissive kneel |
| Y | 5 | Receive maid services |
| Y | 3 | Restrictive Mask on submissive |
| N | 0 | Pet roles (make submissive act like a dog, cat, etc) |
| N | 0 | Pet play (force sex w/pet) |
| N | 0 | Scat Play |
| Y | 3 | Scolding submissive |
| Y | 1 | Spitting in submissive's face |
| N | 0 | Have submissive serve as ashtray |
| N | 0 | Have submissive serve as toilet |
| Y | 4 | Have submissive serve as waitress |
| Y | 4 | Have submissive serve others (supervised) |
| N | 3 | Have submissive serve others (unsupervised) |
| N | 0 | Shave submissive's head |
| N | 3 | Shave submissive's body hair |
| Y | 5 | Shave submissive's pubic hair |
| N | 1 | Slap submissive's face |
| Y | 5 | Spanking (public) |
| Y | 3 | Speech restriction |
| Y | 1 | Have submissive stand in corner |
| N | 0 | Have submissive suck pacifier |
| N | 0 | Have submissive swallow urine |
| Y | 5 | Take Pictures (*personal use only, never distributed) |
| Y | 5 | Take Video (*personal use only, never distributed) |
| Y | 3 | Verbal Abuse |
| Y | 5 | Have submissive wear Collar everywhere |
| N | 0 | Have submissive wear Diapers |
| Y | 2 | Write on submissive's body (slut, sissy, worthless, etc.) |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 5 | Arm Sleeves |
| Y | 6 | Blindfolds |
| Y | 4 | Breast bondage |
| Y | 4 | Gag |
| Y | 5 | Cage |
| Y | 5 | Chain |
| Y | 3 | Chastity Belts |
| Y | 4 | Genital bondage |
| Y | 3 | Harness |
| Y | 4 | Hoods |
| Y | 5 | Immobilization (short time) |
| Y | 3 | Immobilization (long time) |
| Y | 2 | Inside a closet |
| N | 1 | Inside a coffin |
| N | 1 | Katherine wheel |
| Y | 6 | Leather cuffs |
| Y | 6 | Leather restraints |
| Y | 4 | Leg Sleeves |
| Y | 5 | Mask |
| Y | 5 | Mind |
| N | 1 | Mortuary bag |
| Y | 5 | Mouth bits |
| Y | 4 | Nipple Clamps |
| Y | 4 | Rack |
| Y | 5 | Rope |
| Y | 3 | Saran wrapping |
| Y | 6 | Scarves |
| Y | 6 | Shackles |
| Y | 3 | Sleeping bag |
| Y | 3 | Sling |
| Y | 6 | Spreader bar |
| Y | 5 | Steel cuffs |
| Y | 5 | Steel restraints |
| Y | 5 | Stock |
| Y | 3 | Straight jacket |
| Y | 3 | Suspension (regular) |
| Y | 3 | Suspension (up-side down) |
| Y | 3 | Suspension (horizontal) |
| Y | 5 | Tie submissive to a cross |
| Y | 6 | Wrestling |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 4 | Abrasion (* I like to be scratched.) |
| N | 1 | Asphyxia |
| N | 0 | Branding |
| N | 0 | Choking |
| Y | 2 | Clothes Pins |
| N | 1 | Cutting |
| Y | 4 | Electric (violet wand) |
| Y | 4 | Electric (muscle stimulant unit) |
| N | 1 | Face slapping |
| N | 0 | Flesh Hooks |
| N | 1 | Gang Rape scenes |
| Y | 1 | Genital (weights) |
| Y | 1 | Genital (cloth pins) |
| N | 0 | Genital (pins/needles) |
| Y | 5 | Genital (rope) |
| Y | 1 | Genital (vise) |
| N | 1 | Genital whipping |
| N | 1 | Gun Play |
| Y | 4 | Hair Pulling |
| Y | 3 | Hot wax |
| Y | 4 | Ice |
| N | 1 | Fire and Ice (same time) |
| N | 1 | Knife play |
| N | 0 | Medical scenes |
| N | 1 | Needles |
| N | 1 | Piercing |
| Y | 2 | Pinching |
| Y | 4 | Rape Fantasy |
| N | 1 | Slap Face |
| N | 0 | Sleep deprivation |
| N | 0 | Tattoo |
| Y | 4 | TENS units |
| Y | 5 | Tickling |
| Y | 3 | Tit (weights) |
| Y | 3 | Tit (cloth pins) |
| N | 0 | Tit (pins/needles) |
| N | 1 | Tit (rope) |
| Y | 2 | Tit (vise) |
| Y | 2 | Torture rack |
| Y | 2 | Water torture |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| N | 0 | Dominant wears corsets |
| N | 0 | Dominant as French maid |
| N | 0 | Dominant as Child/Baby |
| N | 0 | Dominant in High Heels |
| Y | 6 | Dominant in Leather |
| N | 0 | Dominant in Lingerie |
| Y | 5 | Dominant in a mask |
| Y | 4 | Dominant in PVC |
| Y | 4 | Dominant in Rubber |
| Y | 3 | Dominant in Spandex |
| Y | 5 | Dominant in Uniforms |
| Y | 5 | Dominant in Victorian |
| Y | 6 | Submissive wears corsets |
| Y | 5 | Submissive as French maid |
| N | 0 | Submissive as Child/Baby |
| Y | 5 | Submissive in High Heels |
| Y | 5 | Submissive in Leather |
| Y | 6 | Submissive in Lingerie |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in a Mask |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in PVC |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in Rubber |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in Slutty clothing |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in Spandex |
| Y | 4 | Submissive in Uniforms |
| Y | 5 | Submissive in Victorian |
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| Y/N | # | Activity |
| Y | 4 | Anal (giving) |
| Y | 4 | Anal beads (in submissive) |
| Y | 4 | Anal plugs (small) (in submissive) |
| Y | 3 | Anal plugs (large) (in submissive) |
| Y | 2 | Anal fisting (in submissive) |
| Y | 4 | Anal (vibrator/dildo) (in submissive) |
| Y | 4 | Ben-wa balls (in submissive) |
| N | 0 | Bi-sexuality |
| Y | 3 | Chastity Belt (on submissive) |
| Y | 6 | Cock Worship (Received) |
| N | 0 | Force bi-sexuality for submissive |
| Y | 6 | Hand jobs/Fingering (giving) |
| Y | 6 | Hand jobs (receiving) |
| Y | 6 | Masturbation |
| Y | 4 | Orgy (more then 3) |
| Y | 6 | Oral sex (giving) |
| Y | 6 | Oral sex (receiving) |
| Y | 6 | Orgasm Control |
| Y | 5 | Orgasm Denial |
| Y | 6 | Phone sex (voluntary) |
| N | 0 | Phone sex (force submissive to have it with others) |
| Y | 4 | Sexual denial (short term) |
| N | 1 | Sexual denial (long term) |
| Y | 4 | Sexual Double Penetration |
| Y | 5 | Have submissive swallow semen |
| Y | 2 | Swapping |
| Y | 4 | Threesomes |
| Y | 6 | Vaginal sex |
| Y | 2 | Vaginal fisting |
| Y | 5 | Vaginal Toys |
| Y | 5 | Submissive receives Vaginal - Anal intercourse (same time) |
| Y | 5 | Voyeurism (watching submissive play w/others) |
| Y | 5 | Voyeurism (watching others play) |
WRITTEN INFORMATION:
Write down any other role play activities not mentioned above, which you may be interested to try: I enjoy scenarios that involve me physically overpowering my submissive, with her actively resisting me. During those scenarios, there absolutely must be a safe-word in use, because "no" and "stop," and such words, will be used for dramatic purposes rather than as actual denials. I can get very rough during those games -- abduction/arrest/forced sex scenarios -- but I will never go past agreed limits. Also, I consider aftercare, and having the opportunity to treat my submissive gently and attentively, an important element of scening, especially if things get edgey. And this is going to sound a little odd, but I have a fetish for long hair, and I love to play with it, which may include wanting to wash, brush, or comb my submissive's hair.
At this stage, what do you feel are your absolute limits: I have no interest in engaging in "medical play," as it's too much like my "day job," and that's a line I'd rather not blur. Age play is also a hard limit for me because I used to be a pediatrician, and it's completely against how I view children and teens. Extremely violent acts, especially ones that cause permanent physical scarring, are repugnant to me.
Do you have any medical conditions and emotional concerns that I should know about? (if yes explain below): Not that I'm aware of.
Why and when did you get into the scene: I began exploring it when I was a college student. It's been almost twenty years now. It started out as curiosity and then I realized that it was a genuine need of mine.
What do you seek from your submissive: Most of all? Absolute obedience, and trust. And politeness, if that makes sense. Directness, and a willingness to negotiate and communicate, are extremely important as well.
What do you offer as a Dominant (emotionally and spiritually): I'm very protective of my submissive, and there's little I'll deny her if she asks me. (Within my means, anyway!) I have a great deal of experience with most acts, and know how to perform them safely. Although I think I might get jealous and/or angry if my submissive got involved with someone else without my knowledge/agreement, I'm pretty easy-going about sharing, so jealous tantrums are not something she'll have to worry about. And I never intrude further into her life than she's willing to have me.
OOC: A simple way to use these scores, in order to determine the types of activities that two characters will engage in together, is to add each character's score together with their prospective partner's score for the same item. If the combined score is 6 or less, the activity is one that they won't engage in together. It takes a minimum of 7 to result in an activity occurring.
(Why is that? Because if one of the two characters has a 0 score, signifying a hard limit, even a 6 from the other character can't contradict it. If they had a 1, signifying that they'll only do the activity if it's really important to their partner, it'll take a 6 from the other character to meet that requirement. Same with 2 and 5 -- one character is uninterested but the other is enthused -- and then 3 and 4 -- one character is neutral and the other character likes it.)
7 and 8 would be sporadic activities, not done all that often.
9 and 10 would be activities that occur regularly, but not constantly.
11 and 12 would be activities that occur on an almost constant basis and are generally ingredients of virtually every scene the characters play out.
